As the mother of the bride, all eyes will be on you almost as much as on the bride herself. From your dress to your accessories and yes, your hairstyle, everything should reflect elegance, confidence, and joy.
One of the most common questions we hear:
“Should the mother of the bride wear her hair up or down?”
The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. The best hairstyle for you depends on several factors: the wedding style, your dress, your hair type, and most importantly, what makes you feel beautiful and confident.
Let’s break down the pros and cons of wearing your hair up, down, or even half-up, half-down, along with tips for choosing the right style for you.
1. Wearing Your Hair Up: Classic Elegance & Practicality
Updos have long been a go-to for formal events and for good reason. They instantly elevate your look, keep hair off your face, and often photograph beautifully.
Benefits of an updo:
- Perfect for formal or traditional weddings
- Keeps you cool during summer or outdoor ceremonies
- Highlights your neckline, earrings, or dress details
- Works well with hats, fascinators, or statement hair accessories
Great options for mature women:
- Chignon: A timeless low bun that’s graceful and refined
- French twist: Sophisticated and ideal for upscale venues
- Soft updo with loose waves or tendrils: Adds softness and romance
- Textured bun or braided updo: For a modern, dimensional look
Pro tip: Pair an updo with a mother of the bride dress that has a detailed neckline or back to show off both the hairstyle and the gown’s design.
2. Wearing Your Hair Down: Effortless Beauty & Comfort
If your personal style leans more relaxed or romantic, wearing your hair down can be a beautiful and flattering choice. It feels youthful without being overly casual especially when styled with volume, soft curls, or waves.
Benefits of a down style:
- More natural and easygoing—perfect for rustic or garden weddings
- Ideal for cooler seasons or indoor venues
- Can be incredibly flattering for fuller faces or longer necklines
- Comfortable for those not used to wearing updos
Popular looks:
- Soft curls or Hollywood waves for a glamorous finish
- Blowout with volume for polished simplicity
- Side-swept styles to add asymmetry and drama
- Accessorized down-do with a clip, barrette, or floral accent
Style tip: Down styles pair beautifully with off-the-shoulder gowns or V-neck mother of the bride dresses, especially in lace or chiffon.
3. Half-Up, Half-Down: The Best of Both Worlds
Can’t decide between up or down? A half-up, half-down hairstyle might be your ideal choice. This style strikes the perfect balance between formal and romantic and works well with all hair lengths and textures.
Why it’s a favorite:
- Adds volume and structure while still feeling soft
- Keeps hair away from the face while allowing movement
- Great for adding braids, twists, or decorative pins
- Perfect for medium to long hair
Combine this style with a lace sleeve or three-quarter sleeve dress for a timeless, graceful look that complements mature elegance.
4. Consider Your Dress, Venue, and the Bride’s Style
While your hairstyle should express your personal style, it’s helpful to consider:
- The formality of the wedding: Updos suit black-tie affairs; down styles shine at beach or garden weddings.
- Your dress neckline and fabric: An updo complements ornate necklines, while loose hair pairs well with simpler styles.
- The bride’s look: You don’t need to match—but you do want to complement her vision.
Talk to the bride about her hairstyle and overall wedding theme. Coordinating your look subtly with hers can create a beautiful, cohesive photo moment.
5. Confidence Is Key
No matter which hairstyle you choose—up, down, or somewhere in between—the most important factor is how it makes you feel. If you feel radiant and comfortable, that confidence will shine through all day long.
Consider doing a trial run with your hairstylist, wearing your dress or something similar to get the full effect. And don’t forget to add subtle accessories like pins, combs, or pearl clips that can elevate even the simplest style.
Complete Your Look with JJ’s House
At JJ’s House, we offer a wide selection of mother of the bride dresses designed with mature elegance in mind, from floor-length gowns to chic tea-length styles. Whether you’re planning a sophisticated updo or flowing curls, you’ll find a dress to match your vision.
Embrace elegance with refined hairstyles and graceful silhouettes. Explore the recommended dresses above or shop our collection of mother of the bride dresses to create a polished look from head to toe.
